3 posts tagged “love”
I am grinning ear to ear tonight. A friend of mine is in love. She was tellling me how he gets her sense of humor, that they have this amazing chemistry... then she starts sending me urls to photos of him. This is kind of a big deal. We've been friends for years now and she never once talked about relationships - to the point where I honestly had no idea what her gender preferences were in a partner. But now she is telling me how they met and her pet name for him, and wouldn't you know it I find his blog. Reading over it, I can see how crazy in love he is with her (and his pet name for her too). I have never met him, but I am so wildly happy for them both. True love is a rare gift to be cherished when you find it, I really hope this is it for them.
Christopher loves his big sister a lot. Which is actually one of our sources of conflict at home – he wants to do everything with her, touch her hand or arm in the car, follow her around, etc. But sometimes she wants him to leave her and her stuff alone. I remember that from when I was a kid and my younger sister would puppydog me (kindergarten/5th grade age gap). I thought it was a problem because of the big age gap, but no, apparently it happens with small age gaps too.
I’m working with Allyson to help her understand and appreciate that he loves her and that is a good thing. I try to do things with each of them individually and as a group so she feels like she can have private time away from him sometimes. I don’t ever want her feeling like a mini-parent or live in nanny just because she is the big sister. I work a lot on age-appropriate responsibility for both of them (put away your shoes, take care of your toys type stuff). Sometimes I have to remind myself of their ages and re-set my expectations appropriately though - Allyson is so smart it is easy to forget she is just 5...
